Thursday 13.......#16 ......thirteen strengths of my Melancholy self

Since I did strengths two weeks ago, I will do weaknesses this week....this test is from: Free Personality/Temperament test . This test is based on a book called "Personality Plus: How to Understand Others by Understanding Yourself "(Paperback)by Florence Littauer.

The Melancholy As a Friend **my notes in red

1. Lives through others **I don't see this in me.

2. Insecure socially **used to be, but not so much as I have gotten older.

3. Withdrawn and remote **yes, and some people interpret it as witchy

4. critical of others **sadly, yes

5. Holds back affections **not a big hugger...well, unless I have had a few, then I will hug just about anyone!

6..Dislikes those in opposition **I think 'dislikes' is a harsh word, but I would probably be 'critical'....see #4.

7. Suspicious of people **very much so

8. Antagonistic and vengeful **Not so much, that takes too much energy

9.. Unforgiving **I can be.

10. Full of contradictions **I don't think so, most people know where I stand.

11. Skeptical of compliments **Very much so, it is very hard for me to accept a compliment, this is something I have worked on for years. But it doesn't come natural for me to just say, "thank you!"

The Melancholy As A Parent

12. Puts goals beyond reach **They are only 3 and 4, so I don't think so.

13. May be too meticulous **Nothing wrong with being neat.

Bonus ones, since they were on the list:

14. Becomes martyr **This is so not me!

15. Sulks over disagreements **With the kids!! There are no disagreements, I am right...they are only 3 and 4!!

16. Puts guilt upon children **I don't think so, but I can see how I might be able to do this.

See why I wanted to start with strengths? This makes me sound like Debbie Downer! The one thing I liked about this test was it made me see what my weaknesses are and deal with them...especially the parental ones!